Dina questioned:


About a month ago my husband of 11 years told me that he had been having long conversations on the phone with someone he met from Twitter. We have three children, one is a special needs kiddo who wakes up around midnight until we give him his meds. For the last 6 months, my husband has been getting up with him but not coming back to bed. It bothered me for a while that he was gone, since for 11 years we have always gone to bed at the same time and not even after a fight did we sleep apart. During our marriage we had many outside challenges that we faced together and always were the best of friends. I took a job in which I needed to travel every week for three days and was gone 1/2 the week. We needed the money and we both chose it was best for us to have the extra income. Around May I resigned because my special needs son was not doing well in daycare and it was just hard for me to be away from the husband and the kids. I knew that the job was hard on our marriage but was hopeful that after I came home and took care of the kids things would get better. It didn’t. He was mad all the time. He didn’t want to talk to me about the things we always talked about, told me that he still loved me and that he was going through something. I left it alone until the day he told me about the girl online. It really bothered me that he had been talking for hours and hours to this person in our house, on the couch next to our son. He wasn’t sleeping. He told me that this person was bi-polar, couldn’t sleep and was his friend who he could talk to about his writing. This didn’t sit well with me. I came to find out later that he had strong feelings for this person and that he had traveled 900 miles to her when he was supposed to be in the opposite part of the country Visit his cousin. Since this has happened, he told me he wanted a divorce, wants us to sell our house, wants me to get a job and wants to live in this house until it is sold. HE has also told me that he is bi-polar. Through our marriage I did see depression and he was being treated for it, but with his obsessive nature and mood swings, he very well may be bi-polar. I looked it up and he is on a textbook “mania” kick. Not sleeping, has delusions of grandeur, puts me down, rewrites history to suite him, is destroying all the excellent in his life and is not realistic about his decisions. There have been a few appointments with psychiatrists that he has canceled and told me he does not want to be a science experiment trying new meds. He has left without telling me where is going on more than one weekend. Refuses to answer my calls and comes home after work to crash and sleep on the couch in front of our children. I haven’t filed for a divorce myself because I do not want one. Even with all of this going on, my heart still likes him, or who he was before a month ago. He has even told me that he still likes me and cares for me but that he no longer wants to be married. I’m so confused. I have been taking a lot of crap, putting up with a ton of lies, accusations and pain. My heart is broken. His family isn’t supportive at all. They reckon he is justified in doing this and said- “he just wants a divorce. That will make him pleased.” Am I the only one that thinks this is absurd? That he is leaving his life, his children, ending a marriage, asking to sell our home, change our kids lives just like that because he wants a girl on the internet?? When I tell you that we had a fantastic marriage and I am in shock and frightened of this situation, I mean it. My family is really devastated over this. How can I go on if he is still living here, sneaking around our house talking to this person all night long? How can I deal with this?? His name is on the mortgage along with mine and he told me he will have me arrested if I take the kids to my parents to live (160 miles away in the same state) Its all bizarre. Its all sudden. It could be illness or he could just be evil?? It would be one thing if he left and didn’t live here, but he is here.

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